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Filed as Advice, Parenting and tagged Children, Parenting, Teenagers with no replies
The maturity level of a parent plays an important role in determining how well couples can bring up a child. We have been hearing of a lot of teenaged parents in the world today and you will notice that there are some things that they have to get used to despite being guided by full-pledged parents as their own mom and dad.
Teenage parents are usually torn when it comes to what they want and living up to the responsibility of being a good parent. You may call it as a period of adjustment for the since traditionally, they should be enjoying the prime of their teenage life. In fact, some teenagers do not really understand what they are up against when they become parents either by accident or choice. Of the two, it seems teenage parents occur due to the former and immature decisions.
These days, rarely would you see teenage parents last long. We see those evidently parting ways since as they say; they are not yet ready to face parenthood. They realize this only a couple of years later, rash decisions which they only admit once they fail to live up to the billing of good parents.
In the end, only one of the parents will remain standing. It is normally the mother who will always get the sole rights assuming to the offspring and as trends show to us. Unless of course you are psychologically unstable (like Britney Spears perhaps?), most of the time, women will get full rights to a child even if you go through the courts. A father normally can have rights after the child turns 7 years old to which he can already make decisions and choices on his or her own.
Teenage parenting does seem complicated. But the thought alone in the early going should be carefully evaluated. Parenting is a serious responsibility. It is not as easy as most people would think.
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Filed as Advice, Parenting and tagged babies, Children, Parenting, single parenting with no replies
Raising a child is the duty of a mother and a father. But at these times, we see the swelling number of children who have to live with only one parent. The normal one we see are the mother and a child who have been abandoned by their father although there are rare cases of a child being left under the wing of their dad. Whichever case it may be, parenting a child alone is quite hard. Having to provide for another mouth and then nurturing them to stay healthy, you have t wonder how single parents do it.
The responsibility that they impose on themselves is something to behold. Some may call being a single parent a mistake on their part that they have to live with. But whether it is a mistake or not, the child you bear is someone who should not be blamed nor made to suffer. They are the supposed fruit of your loin and while they have little options as far as living is concerned, it would be best to look at them as trophies and inspirations rather than excess baggage.
It is not easy being a single parent. Needs such as food and clothing are not easy to provide, especially during these hard times when a single parent has to consider how they will live and cover daily expenses to be able to survive. Some parents even go to the extent of passing up their own needs such as clothing or some things needed to generate money just to bring a smile in the face of a child. For what is worth, that smile is worth more than anything that money can buy.
Single parents will have a hard time during their state but it does not mean that they will forever be single. For sure someone will come to help them out along the way. But binding them with your child is the next challenge.
That is another entry we will take up next.
Filed as Advice, Parenting, Teenagers and tagged drivers license, drunk driving, Teenagers with no replies
If you happen to have a teenager who owns a driver’s license, it would be wise to hold on to it and just hand it to them when they need it. That is of course if you will allow them. This way, you will be able to know where they would be going to and if there are potential hazards with regards to where they may be going.
The number of accidents in teenagers due to being drunk and then driving is growing in numbers and while many parents continue to monitor their children, it cannot be discounted that they will not always divulge the truth with regards to their activities. The bad thing about it all is that they would be informed of untoward incidents such as driving accidents which may be playing in the area of death at the worst case scenario.
As a parent, grabbing hold of their driver’s license is easy. But you also have to consider how it would look on the side of your teenager. It is at this point that you will hear them trying to reason with you such as saying that they are no longer kids. This is a normal reaction and it can go as far as other cases. Teenagers just want to show you that they can be responsible without thinking of the things that can ultimately happen to them.
When you find yourself in these cases, the need to balance the situation arises. For one, you don’t want to embarrass your son or daughter. You just want to avoid the unthinkable circumstances that teenagers today are forgetting what it means to be responsible and to safeguard their health and safety.
In this aspect, it is perhaps one of the challenges as a parent. While you may not want to show them you are being strict about things, it remains that you have to make sure that they grow up right and do not waste their life on one foolish mishap such as drinking and driving.
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Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged baby, Children, developmental stages, father, mother, Parenting, spoiling with no replies
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Many would call it strange but while we are all familiar with the usual motherly love and care given to children, fathers provide the same care as well if given the choice. Especially at the rate that women need to work to help in the financial burdens of families today, fathers have to step up and provide attention during their free time as well.
Ideally, it seems that fathers are least capable of providing the wanted care of children today. But there are exceptions. At first it may seem difficult but with patience and some tips coming from the seasoned mothers, fathers can likewise be at par on how to take care of children.
But perhaps one thing that should be put in check would be the manner of care that would place children under the borderline cases of potential spoiling. Spoiling children as we all know is treating them like kings or queens, disregarding mistakes so that they can feel great all the time. While some parents just want the best for their child, this type of approach may be good for now but can be risky later on when their kids grow up.
Fathers may be prone to this considering that a father’s wrath is something that child will perceive as fear. That is perhaps if there is one thing that fathers should instill in themselves is self-control and patience.
Tantrums and hard-headedness of children is only normal. But to handle them should not be to give in to making them think that they can get away with it. Set a bar on it and know when to scold them and when not to. They are in the developmental stages and it would be best to straighten them out during these stages.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged big shoes, Children, idolize, kids, Parenting, responsibility, single parent with no replies
We may not necessarily like it but we see a lot of single parents in the form of unwed mothers or divorced couples who have to fill up the slack of taking care of their child alone. To most, it seems like a daunting task while for others, it is a challenge that only life can give.
Parenting is a joy if you use the proper approach. It is not a burden as some would say. Remember, you are part of brining that child to life and for sure the rewards will be heartfelt in the end. Your mission is to ensure that this child grows up to be responsible and sane, taking on life in the way that a mature adult should approach it.
Filling in Big Shoes
Ideally, taking the place of both a mother and a father is indeed big shoes to fill. But just like anything, hard work and sacrifices return large rewards. This is not in the form of money but in the form of security and lighter feeling. It is an expression only a parent can feel and once you get there, see the appreciation and tender loving care reciprocated unto you, you are sure to feel that it was worth every effort to bring up a child single-handedly.
Being a Role Model
Seeing that you are the only one who is bringing up your kid will surely be something that a child will appreciate. In fact, do not be surprised if they idolize you, follow your footsteps in making sure that they have a good life ahead. This is common and once that happens, tears of joy are sure to fall down your eyes.
As a whole, do not be surprised on how it is to be a single parent. Depending on your approach, it can be the best thing that happened to you. Always think positive.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged attention, babies, checkups, doctor, health, pediatrician, physician, vaccinations with 1 reply
Knowing babies and children, the doctor is the last person they would want to see. So they don’t know much about what a doctor or a pediatrician is at their age but the thing is they need the regular check-ups to ensure their overall health. Vaccinations and scheduled checkups are normal these days to make sure our babies are free from the usual diseases that are spreading today.
The question remains however, how do you condition the mind of your baby to see the pediatrician and avoid seeing those making tantrums and overly getting out of hand. Babies would normally shriek wildly especially if a stranger in the person of pediatrician would touch them. So how do you make up for it?
There are various ways. But the most important thing to note is the attention that they normally focus on. Babies and kids feel secure knowing their mom or dad is around. That is why most of the time, we see parents assisting doctors since if not, you would see a child crying like crazy.
In a pediatrician’s office we would normally see toys or colorful stuff that captures the child’s attention. They are placed there for a reason and that is to set the child’s mind somewhere else. While to most, it may be something that can be temporary but it is all about timing as well. Normally a physician would want to get it over and done with. But the thing is you have to time it perfectly. Otherwise expect the child to throw up on the spot or worse, suffer from trauma when it comes to check-up time with the doctor.
Be aware of these things. Just know how to put their mind somewhere else for a couple of hours and you will see improvements when your child has to see a doctor for checkup or other medical concerns.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged babies, communications, developmental stages, disciplining, education, kids, Parenting, psychological disorders with no replies
As a parent, you will notice that one important thing that babies and kids yearn for today is attention. They may not be able to communicate with you in the standard way of communications but they do let you know if they need or want something. At times you will know if they want to play, eat or simply want to be cuddled with. Children love the affection and the attention and parents are the best people to give that to them.
Disciplining Your Child
The hard part is trying to draw the line. Kids will always feel that anything that they do is right and proper. Scolding them or showing them that something like spitting in front of other people should be done in a manner to which they will understand. One thing that is for sure, do not shout at them. It is the poorest way of trying to educate them in their current state.
The Moderate Teaching Approach
We all have our own ways of educating our child. Some parents even go as far as practicing what their elders did when they were young. But this does not always follow. The right way to educate a child is to do it by stage and at a medium to which they would understand. Do not use force or lash out at them as a dictatorial style of parenting. They will grow up with fear and perhaps suffer from psychological disorders.
Lastly, be as open and patient as possible. Kids are in their developmental stages and they have yet to understand the real purpose of life. Treat them as precious kids that they should be. They are gifts that can really blossom into better people to which will speak highly of you as a parent.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting with no replies
Just like a normal person, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. Not that we will admit it, but when we are with our siblings, we always make it a point to let them know that we are always right. For the meantime that they are in their developmental stages, this is something parents can get away with but the real deal in good parenting comes from learning from mistakes made.
Parents will have their share of foul-ups. That is a given for any aspiring parent today. Rather than be too proud, it would be best to admit to ourselves initially of these shortcomings and use them as points for improvement to become better parents for our children today.
