Filed as Children, Parenting, Parenting News and tagged india, laws, manji yamada, Parenting, surrogate law with no replies
No disrespect meant to the various traditions that each country or region would have as far as the scope of their governing laws are concerned but when you put the life of a child on the line and make it complicated because of one stupid law, that is bound to draw the ire of any parent from anywhere in the world.
Take India for instance. We are all aware of the age of test tube and surrogate reproduction. While it is apparent that the real father and mother would be the sperm and the eggs donated by a man and a woman the absence of a surrogate law deprives Indian babies of a normal life. In short, innocent offsprings are put in a bind just because of legal complications.
Manji Yamada was born last month after eggs from an Indian donor were fertilised using the Japanese man’s sperm and implanted in the womb of the surrogate Indian mother.
Her biological father split from his wife after the fertilisation process, and his former spouse no longer wants the baby.
In the absence of a surrogacy law in India, the child — who is an Indian citizen — will have to be adopted by her Japanese father Ikufumi Yamada, 45.
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If you think that is enough, it only gets worse. Under Indian laws, a single father cannot adopt a baby girl. So imagine this case, even the biological father cannot adopt his own flesh and blood.
Just like most governing systems, there is bound to be a loophole. But as far as placing parenting and kids in the fray, this is too much. What proof can still be needed when in fact that this child and father are obviously biologically related? So much for democracy! They seem to make this issue from good to bad.
Filed as Advice, Parenting and tagged Children, Parenting, Teenagers with no replies
The maturity level of a parent plays an important role in determining how well couples can bring up a child. We have been hearing of a lot of teenaged parents in the world today and you will notice that there are some things that they have to get used to despite being guided by full-pledged parents as their own mom and dad.
Teenage parents are usually torn when it comes to what they want and living up to the responsibility of being a good parent. You may call it as a period of adjustment for the since traditionally, they should be enjoying the prime of their teenage life. In fact, some teenagers do not really understand what they are up against when they become parents either by accident or choice. Of the two, it seems teenage parents occur due to the former and immature decisions.
These days, rarely would you see teenage parents last long. We see those evidently parting ways since as they say; they are not yet ready to face parenthood. They realize this only a couple of years later, rash decisions which they only admit once they fail to live up to the billing of good parents.
In the end, only one of the parents will remain standing. It is normally the mother who will always get the sole rights assuming to the offspring and as trends show to us. Unless of course you are psychologically unstable (like Britney Spears perhaps?), most of the time, women will get full rights to a child even if you go through the courts. A father normally can have rights after the child turns 7 years old to which he can already make decisions and choices on his or her own.
Teenage parenting does seem complicated. But the thought alone in the early going should be carefully evaluated. Parenting is a serious responsibility. It is not as easy as most people would think.
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Filed as Advice, Parenting and tagged babies, Children, Parenting, single parenting with no replies
Raising a child is the duty of a mother and a father. But at these times, we see the swelling number of children who have to live with only one parent. The normal one we see are the mother and a child who have been abandoned by their father although there are rare cases of a child being left under the wing of their dad. Whichever case it may be, parenting a child alone is quite hard. Having to provide for another mouth and then nurturing them to stay healthy, you have t wonder how single parents do it.
The responsibility that they impose on themselves is something to behold. Some may call being a single parent a mistake on their part that they have to live with. But whether it is a mistake or not, the child you bear is someone who should not be blamed nor made to suffer. They are the supposed fruit of your loin and while they have little options as far as living is concerned, it would be best to look at them as trophies and inspirations rather than excess baggage.
It is not easy being a single parent. Needs such as food and clothing are not easy to provide, especially during these hard times when a single parent has to consider how they will live and cover daily expenses to be able to survive. Some parents even go to the extent of passing up their own needs such as clothing or some things needed to generate money just to bring a smile in the face of a child. For what is worth, that smile is worth more than anything that money can buy.
Single parents will have a hard time during their state but it does not mean that they will forever be single. For sure someone will come to help them out along the way. But binding them with your child is the next challenge.
That is another entry we will take up next.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged baby, Children, developmental stages, father, mother, Parenting, spoiling with no replies
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Many would call it strange but while we are all familiar with the usual motherly love and care given to children, fathers provide the same care as well if given the choice. Especially at the rate that women need to work to help in the financial burdens of families today, fathers have to step up and provide attention during their free time as well.
Ideally, it seems that fathers are least capable of providing the wanted care of children today. But there are exceptions. At first it may seem difficult but with patience and some tips coming from the seasoned mothers, fathers can likewise be at par on how to take care of children.
But perhaps one thing that should be put in check would be the manner of care that would place children under the borderline cases of potential spoiling. Spoiling children as we all know is treating them like kings or queens, disregarding mistakes so that they can feel great all the time. While some parents just want the best for their child, this type of approach may be good for now but can be risky later on when their kids grow up.
Fathers may be prone to this considering that a father’s wrath is something that child will perceive as fear. That is perhaps if there is one thing that fathers should instill in themselves is self-control and patience.
Tantrums and hard-headedness of children is only normal. But to handle them should not be to give in to making them think that they can get away with it. Set a bar on it and know when to scold them and when not to. They are in the developmental stages and it would be best to straighten them out during these stages.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged big shoes, Children, idolize, kids, Parenting, responsibility, single parent with no replies
We may not necessarily like it but we see a lot of single parents in the form of unwed mothers or divorced couples who have to fill up the slack of taking care of their child alone. To most, it seems like a daunting task while for others, it is a challenge that only life can give.
Parenting is a joy if you use the proper approach. It is not a burden as some would say. Remember, you are part of brining that child to life and for sure the rewards will be heartfelt in the end. Your mission is to ensure that this child grows up to be responsible and sane, taking on life in the way that a mature adult should approach it.
Filling in Big Shoes
Ideally, taking the place of both a mother and a father is indeed big shoes to fill. But just like anything, hard work and sacrifices return large rewards. This is not in the form of money but in the form of security and lighter feeling. It is an expression only a parent can feel and once you get there, see the appreciation and tender loving care reciprocated unto you, you are sure to feel that it was worth every effort to bring up a child single-handedly.
Being a Role Model
Seeing that you are the only one who is bringing up your kid will surely be something that a child will appreciate. In fact, do not be surprised if they idolize you, follow your footsteps in making sure that they have a good life ahead. This is common and once that happens, tears of joy are sure to fall down your eyes.
As a whole, do not be surprised on how it is to be a single parent. Depending on your approach, it can be the best thing that happened to you. Always think positive.
Filed as Advice, Children, Parenting and tagged babies, communications, developmental stages, disciplining, education, kids, Parenting, psychological disorders with no replies
As a parent, you will notice that one important thing that babies and kids yearn for today is attention. They may not be able to communicate with you in the standard way of communications but they do let you know if they need or want something. At times you will know if they want to play, eat or simply want to be cuddled with. Children love the affection and the attention and parents are the best people to give that to them.
Disciplining Your Child
The hard part is trying to draw the line. Kids will always feel that anything that they do is right and proper. Scolding them or showing them that something like spitting in front of other people should be done in a manner to which they will understand. One thing that is for sure, do not shout at them. It is the poorest way of trying to educate them in their current state.
The Moderate Teaching Approach
We all have our own ways of educating our child. Some parents even go as far as practicing what their elders did when they were young. But this does not always follow. The right way to educate a child is to do it by stage and at a medium to which they would understand. Do not use force or lash out at them as a dictatorial style of parenting. They will grow up with fear and perhaps suffer from psychological disorders.
Lastly, be as open and patient as possible. Kids are in their developmental stages and they have yet to understand the real purpose of life. Treat them as precious kids that they should be. They are gifts that can really blossom into better people to which will speak highly of you as a parent.
